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Finding your purpose

What is actually the point?

As I’m now a young adult and apparently I have responsibilities and things to do, I’ve really began to think, what is actually the point of all this? I know it sounds like quite a deep blog post title and subject, but I’m talking about something really important here. Is the point of life just to work until we retire… and then die? Is the only purpose of us simply to make money to live and eat food, support ourselves and our family… and then die? What is the point of having a blog? What is the point of creating friendships and relationships and maintaining them? What is the point of my degree? Why am I doing this?

These questions and statements are of course true in some ways, but in other ways couldn’t be further from the truth and I’ve just put them out there as points of discussion. But, I’m sure I can’t be the only person who has thought about them.

I think it’s really important to have a purpose, or a goal that you’d like to achieve at some point in your life. Or even a list of things you’d love to do, places you want to travel too, food you want to try and so on. By doing this, you’re creating a purpose. A purpose for your life.

If you have depression, it can become hard to find a reason to get up in the mornings, a reason to stay motivated or a reason to do absolutely anything at all. And sometimes it can feel like that for people who aren’t suffering with mental ill-health too.

If I sat and thought about life and the idea that all we do is work and then die, I would drive myself crazy, which is why we have to do the things we love.

I know it’s easier said than done, most of the times our circumstances make it impossible for us to quit everything and do what we love. For example, I want to be an author. I always have and probably always will. But because I’m still a student, I have other career paths too, I don’t have much money, I need to build a following first and I need a publisher to believe in me, I can’t just be an author tomorrow because I want too. But, I can write on the side as my hobby and hope and pray that if I work hard enough it will happen for me in the future.

These thoughts are what gives me a purpose in life, hope that I can do everything I want too before my life is over and a point in all of this.

I think the true purpose we all have and the reason we’re all here is to 1. Be truly and genuinely happy with everything we have and everything we achieve, and 2. To create beautiful memories with people we love.

If you think about everything else, none of it really matters. I recently quit a job that I had worked at for two and a half years, because I was working three jobs at once whilst studying in my final year at University and everything got too much. I beat myself up every single day for a month trying to decide whether to quit this job and I was so afraid that if I did, I’d let someone down. I finally made the decision to leave and guess what? Not one person said goodbye to me. Not. One.

After that, I realised that you have to value yourself and you have to make sure everything you’re doing has a purpose. When you’re going for a job, think about why the hell you actually want to do it, what the purpose is and what it’s going to bring you. If it’s not positivity, then don’t do it. It really is so simple, because this is your life and you need to feel a sense of purpose in order to live a fulfilled life. It’s imperative. That job was making me miserable and quitting was the best decision for me. And it was proof that all my worrying for the month beforehand was over nothing as me leaving didn’t affect anyone, anyway.

Like I mentioned earlier, I know that each persons circumstances are so different. But what I want you to take from this blog post, that if you’re like me and have started to question what the point of all of this is, you must find a purpose. What is the purpose of you doing whatever you’re doing?

If your purpose in life is to bring up your children to the best of your ability, then make that your life goal. If your purpose in life is to make sure your partner is happy, then so be it. If your purpose in life is to become a CEO and make £1million, then write down all of the ways you want to achieve that and make it your life purpose. Does this make sense?

None of us want to die, but it’s inevitable. Sorry. We’re all going to die, so make your life purposeful and full of reason. Make your life a fulfilled one. Follow your dreams. Do whatever you want and certainly don’t care what people say.

Find your life purpose, because everyone has one.

Chloe x

Hello 2019!

Ah, 2019. A brand new year. A fresh start. New year, new me and all of that. A new year is usually the time for people to start making their new year resolutions, writing any goals they hope to achieve in the new year and starting a clean slate. I do love thinking about a new year and all it can bring, however it can be a difficult time for us. In this blog post, I’m going to be discussing the pressures that the new year can bring and how I, personally, don’t particularly agree with resolutions.

The problem with resolutions is that you can automatically be setting yourself up for a fall. There’s no point in me making a resolution that says ‘I’m not going to drink as much wine’ for example, because I already know I won’t be able to keep up with that promise. I love wine too much.

New year resolutions can cause you to put so much pressure on yourself to complete the things that you’ve told yourself you need to do it the year ahead, that sometimes you don’t end up doing anything at all and find yourself in a rut. I never set myself resolutions, but I do think it’s great to have goals or a bit of a plan of what you hope to achieve in the next 12 months. Emphasis on the word hope! It’s perfectly OK if you don’t achieve your goals. And if you do, well done you! That’s fantastic. Here are the things that I’m hoping to do this year;

  • Complete University and graduate
  • Save, save, save
  • Buy a new car
  • Find a full time job that I love
  • Be accepted to do my Masters degree/ start my Masters degree
  • Be more dedicated to my blog
  • Start You Tube (if I can pluck up the confidence)
  • Finish my book
  • Get my book published
  • Find my self-confidence
  • Find belief in myself
  • Get fit and healthy
  • Make new friends
  • Go on a holiday

I know it seems like I have a lot of goals, and I do. But this is just a summary of everything I’d like to achieve, but I know it’s not all going to happen in the next year. By making sure I know this, it helps to keep things into perspective and to tell myself that I don’t need to pile the pressure on to achieve them. They will happen when they happen.

Take finding my self-confidence or believing in myself for example, that kind of thing takes years to accomplish, to truly have confidence in yourself. I know that this isn’t going to happen in one year, but my goal is to put more emphasis and effort into helping myself to feel this way in 2019.

It’s hard not to put pressure on yourself whenever a new year comes around, as quickly as it always does. You see other people starting the gym, eating well, glowing and pushing themselves to do the things they want by the 1st week of January, yet you still can’t find the motivation to do any of that for yourself. And this is perfectly OK. Just because we enter a new year, does not mean you’re a different person. We don’t enter a new life when the new year begins, we carry on being us but the time moves on and we have to try and keep up.

My friends Dad is turning 60 next month and she told me something that he said, that really stuck in my head. She told me that her Dad said he isn’t worried about turning 60, it’s just another number. He said that he’s just happy to still be waking up every day, so his 60th birthday is just another day to be happy about. And this is the idea that I want to take into 2019.

If you’re reading this, you’re still here. You made it into 2019. You’re here and you’re living and breathing. Without putting pressure on yourself in the new year, just be happy that you’ve made it into 2019 and think about how fantastic and positive it is that you’re waking up every day.

Second step, think about what’s going to make you the happiest this year. Slowly but surely, find the confidence to get rid of the things that aren’t making you happy anymore. Whether that be a person, a relationship, a friendship, a job, a habit, your diet, anything! If you need to stop doing things that you did last year because they don’t make you happy anymore, then make 2019 the year that you choose to do what makes you happy. Use the clean slate of a new year to make these decisions for yourself.

Also, think about where you were this time last year and think about how far you’ve come. I feel like I was a completely different person this time last year in comparison to who I am now. I’ve grown in so many different ways and I’ve learnt so many things. And that’s what a new year should be about; learning and growing naturally without pressure.

So, less of the pressure on yourself, find your happiness in whatever that may be, and don’t feel worried if you haven’t achieved everything on your list by the end of January. I’m telling you now, that’s not going to happen. Everything is a process, it’s the beginning that is the most important part.

After you’ve read this post, please, get a pen and paper and write what you hope to achieve in a list, just like I did up there ^.

Don’t put any time limits on, this adds pressure that we’re trying to avoid.

I hope January is working out in the best way possible for you, and if it’s not, don’t worry. We have a long year ahead of us and so many changes are going to happen and things are going to work out the way they should.

I’d love to hear some of your goals for the year ahead, so let me know!

Happy 2019.

Body Confidence Journey.. If I Can, You Can Too.

Before I started writing this blog post, I was trying to think back over the past 5 or 6 years to a time when I felt confident with my body and the way I looked. Genuinely, I couldn’t think of one time! I’ve never been fully confident with my body, ever, and it really dawned on me when I was thinking about how to start this post.
When you are younger, for example, at high school, the way you feel about your body and body confidence isn’t really something that you are constantly thinking about. Well, for me it wasn’t anyway. My main focuses were enjoying my time with my friends, talking about boys and trying to stay out of any drama! I would never wake up and look at myself and think that I was unhappy, even though I probably was. I’d just put my uniform on and get on with my day. When I got to year 11, so I was 16 years old, I lost so much weight. Looking back at pictures of me when I was as small as I was honestly makes me want to cry. I didn’t lose this weight intentionally as my final year of school was probably one of the worst years I’ve had in my life so far, which caused me to lose all the weight. I became ill, the small amount of food that I was actually eating I couldn’t even hold down because every day I was so anxious about the number of things that were going on, my body physically wouldn’t let me swallow! I ended up going down to a size 4-6. I’ve always had curves, the same as my Mum, but I just lost everything. I can’t stand to look at pictures of myself like that, because I know how unhealthy it was.
When I got to college, I was back eating normally again but I still wasn’t happy with the way I looked. I would say that I was probably putting on weight, but definitely not enough. My anxiety over these two years was still through the roof, and the whole two years of college seems like a complete blur to me and not a time that I like to reflect on. At this point of my life, it became clear how much pressure is put on young women to look a certain way. I would go into college and look around me at all the other girls, who dressed up for college, and then I’d go into the bathroom and look at myself in a hoodie and leggings and feel so awful. I didn’t even have the confidence to wear what I wanted, I wasn’t the size I wanted to be and I wasn’t wearing the things I would have loved to wear.
I then moved onto University, where I started to put so much weight back on, but then I put on too much. I felt fat, ugly and disgusting, even though to others they didn’t think that at all. I was unhappy in my first year of University and stopped going to my lectures as I knew I was going to change course and start my first year again, so all I did every single day was stay in bed and eat. I was way too anxious to go out, and the thought of stepping foot in a gym scared me way too much. It was never going to happen. I could feel myself becoming so unhealthy and every time I looked at myself, again, I felt awful. But I couldn’t stop eating! I had nothing else to do during my days, I was literally waiting for the year to be over. So, food was my comfort for making the days’ pass. It wasn’t even healthy food either, I was eating way too much pasta, getting takeaways and chocolate from the shop every other day. I was a complete mess, and even reflecting on this part of my life fills my stomach with knots.
I don’t want this post to be all doom and gloom, but I needed to share my journey with you all. I’m now almost 21, and in my third year of University and I have never felt better.
I’ve gone from being a girl who was too anxious to leave the house, who never felt confident about who she was and what she looked like, a girl who was depressed, to now going to the gym every day and enjoying every minute of it. I’ve gone from wearing baggy clothes in the gym and wanting to cover every inch of me, to now feeling confident enough to wear whatever gym clothes I want, whether they be baggy or tight gym leggings and crop tops. And the best part which I never thought I would say; I’m taking part in a triathlon in a month’s time. I can’t believe it!
The whole point of this blog post is just to share with anyone who has struggled with their body image and feeling body confident, or still is struggling, that things can change so easily and so quickly. Never in a million years did I think that I would be taking part in a big sporting event. Firstly, because I didn’t think I would ever feel confident enough. And secondly, because I never thought I would be fit and healthy enough.
My first bit of advice is that you need to surround yourself with the right people. From my last year at high school and all throughout college, I had nobody around me who was trying to motivate me and empower me, which is what best friends and any kind of relationships are meant to be there for. I was left feeling like I wasn’t good enough for anything or anyone because I was allowing people around me to treat me this way. Moving into different groups and letting go of people who only made me feel worse about myself was the best decision. Even if this means cutting them off, and losing a big group of people who you believed to be your ‘friend
s’. The reality is, if they don’t make you feel great and support you, are they truly meant to be in your life?
Secondly, you have to make yourself feel better, for you and only you. Try not to care what people think of you. I know myself, it’s difficult especially if you’re an over-thinker or suffer with anxiety. I found it hard to go to the gym because I was worried that everyone would be staring at me and judging me. But the reality is, that doesn’t happen! People may look at you once when you walk through the door to see who it is (don’t we all?) but then everyone looks away and carries on with their own thing. You need to do as much or as little to whatever suits you and whatever makes you feel better. Don’t change your body for the approval of others. If you’re unhappy, it’s only you who can do something about it.
I’ve emerged the gym into my daily routine, and I ensure that I eat well because it’s me who does my food shopping. If I don’t buy bad foods, then I can’t eat them! I really can’t believe how far I have come with my body and my confidence, and although I am not quite 100% yet, I am so excited to continue improving my life and maintaining a healthy lifestyle.
I also try not to kid myself thinking it’s all going to be easy. There are times when I’ve been feeling unmotivated and have skipped the gym for a week, or maybe even two when everything has been getting on top of me. There have been times when I feel down and can’t even find the energy to make something to eat, so I’ll waste my money and order a takeaway and feel even worse about myself afterwards. But you’ve just got to try and push yourself!
I know that if I can make myself feel better, generally healthier in my body AND my mind from where I started from, then anyone can. I would love to continue sharing my fitness progress through my blog, because anyone can do it.
I know you can! Believe in yourself.

 

Healthy Mind, Healthy Body, Healthy Life

If you switch on the news, go online, or read a newspaper in everyday life of today, you will see that this topic is the most talked about within our society at the moment. Mental health surrounding young people is a topic that is becoming much less of a taboo to talk about, and I feel more recently is most definitely being focused on.
According to research, 75% of mental illnesses start before a child reaches their 18thbirthday, while 50% of mental health problems in adult life take root before the age of 15.
Although this may be a difficult subject to discuss, suicide is the leading cause of death in young men and women aged 20-34 in the UK. The latest figures that have been published by the Office of National Statistics reveal that the number of young suicides each year is greater than it ever has been in the last 10 years.
Why are the stats so high?
I truly believe that the reason the statistics are so high for suicide is because young people feel they do not know where to turn when fighting a mental illness. Whether it be depression, anxiety or something even more severe such as alcohol or drug dependency, there are not enough resources available for young people to ask for help. Not only that, there is a stigma attached to ‘mental illness’.
Research has found that particularly in males, they may find it more difficult to speak about their emotions and feelings, which leads to an increase in male suicides. Males feel that they are going to be judged for not being ‘manly’ enough, or they face the fear that they will be told to ‘man up’ if they admit that they are feeling depressed, sad, lonely or anxious.
I have to admit, within the last couple of years I have noticed a huge change in focusing on mental health and young people, and the services and funding regarding the topic has most definitely improved. But we need to keep going.
The fight to eradicate the ‘taboo’
Statistics will tell us that 16 million people in the UK will experience a mental illness. One in four adults will experience a mental illness at some point each year. In fact, I like to think of it this way; we all have mental health. Every single person experiences mental health, and some days our mental health will be amazing, and other days our mental health will be poor.
My point is, everyone feels it. Everyone has been through times where they have felt depressed and lonely, and nobody should have to go through it alone. I want everyone to feel comfortable enough in society to be able to openly speak about the way they are feeling and feel okay about asking for help, because talking about it changes everything. We need to fight the stereotypical view that men should be ‘manly’ and shouldn’t be talking about their emotions; because they should. We need to fight the stereotypical view that women dramatize everything and should ‘get on with things’ because that isn’t healthy.
Mental health should be talked about and assessed every single day.
Just like the title says, ‘healthy mind, healthy body, healthy life’. Our mental health is fundamental in being able to achieve other things in our lives. If you are suffering with mental health issues, it is so easy to block out everything else. It feels like a downward spiral of not wanting to see family or friends, not wanting to go to work or education, and not wanting to do anything. I truly believe that our mental health should come before anything else, sometimes that includes physical health too.
What can we do to help ourselves?
Talk. Express your emotions. Cry as much as you need too!
 
I urge you to talk about the way you’re feeling. Find someone you trust and let everything out. Bottling your sadness, loneliness or any other bad feelings inside will only cause the issue to get worse. There are so many people that are able to help.
I have seen the rise of organisations and charities that are determined to help anyone who may be feeling suicidal or lonely and it’s so important that if you are feeling this way, to seek all the help you can get.
The most important thing to take from this article, is to never feel embarrassed. Never feel embarrassed to talk about the way you’re feeling no matter who you are, no matter what gender, age, race, ethnicity you are. We are all human beings who should never feel ashamed of feeling emotions.
I have linked just a few websites and organisations who are there for you to talk too, whenever and wherever you need it. Don’t bottle things up, mental health is nothing to be afraid or ashamed of and there is always someone there to help you.

 

Heartbreak.

I thought I would write about quite a deep, sensitive and emotional subject for this week’s blog post. I wanted to talk about something that I myself, have been through and can very much relate too and I hope that you can too. I wanted to talk about heartbreak and relate that to the importance of self-worth and believing in ourselves, even after a relationship breakdown.
When looking back at relationships, it’s easy to feel as though you regret being with that certain person, especially if the relationship ended in a toxic way. It’s hard to feel as though you could ever forgive that person for breaking your heart and hurting you. But I realised a lot of things each time I felt hurt and let down in another relationship, things that I will explain as this blog post goes on.
Feeling heartbroken brings about so many different feelings and emotions. You can feel lost and feel a sense of grief that you’re unable to be with that person anymore. Personally, I sometimes find it difficult to deal with change. I like having the same routine and this is the same for my relationships. I love having the same person there every day to be with, so for me, when that suddenly changes and they aren’t there anymore for whatever the reason may be, I completely struggle to deal with it. Once you have relied on someone for a certain amount of time, you truly believe that that person won’t be going anywhere and when they do, you feel lost and heartbroken.
Even if you are the person in the relationship that hasn’t done wrong, or even if the break up was mutual, you’re still left asking yourself questions; ‘Why wasn’t I good enough?’ ‘What am I going to do now?’ ‘Why didn’t they want me?’ ‘Will I ever find anyone else?’
There have been countless times for me, where a relationship has ended and I have felt totally worthless. The thoughts going around in my head are mad, and each knock back after knock back has made me feel as though I’ll never be good enough for anyone.
Getting over heartbreak is a process, and one that takes time. It’s just like when you’re grieving – grieving and heartbreak come under exactly the same bracket. There’s absolutely no time limit for heartbreak. There is no rule book to tell you how long it should take to get over someone. You need to give yourself time; time to heal, time to get over that person, time to feel emotions again, and time to love yourself.
The initial human reaction after a break up is to start feeling bitter towards that person. You feel as though you hate them, and you use this hatred in order to tell yourself how much you need to get over them. You force yourself to think of all the times they may have upset you and all the hurtful words they may have said to you and this ultimately makes the bitterness worse. I’ve done it myself, I intensify my ‘hatred’ for that person in order to tell myself how awful they are so that I can try to move on. For a long time, I’ve felt like this was the only way to be able to move on.
But I’ve been so, so wrong.
It’s the most freeing feeling to just move on from something and feel genuinely happy. I realised that in order to move on from feeling heartbroken and hurt; you MUST LET GO. You cannot hold onto the hate and hurt and use that in an attempt to move on, it doesn’t work.
It’s important to look at relationships from a different angle. Be thankful for the memories that the relationship gave you without feeling bitter. You enjoyed the time you spent with that person and the way they made you feel for a while, and they became a chapter in your life. Just because that chapter may have ended, doesn’t mean your life is over. I know how worthlessness feels, but I also know how important it is to shake the feeling of it off, and how important it is to continue with your life without that person, focusing on yourself and only yourself.
I found that I was too busy relying on other people, and I was focusing too much on my relationships to make me happy. I was desperate to find someone who could give me the love that I deserve, and who could give me the love that I was able to give to them. Unfortunately, I haven’t found that person yet. But that’s perfectly okay.
I’ve been hurt, but I can use these past relationships to help me find the right one. I’ve learnt a lot about myself, I’ve learnt how strong I am, and that I really don’t give myself enough credit!
I really want to stress how much you cannot let someone else make you feel as though you aren’t good enough. Stop asking yourself the questions I mentioned earlier, because you are enough and you always will be for someone. If a person makes it clear they do not want you – move on and better yourself. There’s no time to be wasted.
I know these words are easy to read but very difficult to do when you’re actually in the situation of a break up. But it’s taken me to feel heartbroken a couple of times to realise that I am worth more than the way I have been treated in the past, and now I know this, I won’t settle for anything less than someone who adores me, and neither should you!
I want you to take away from this post that things will always get better. I want you to learn to appreciate your past relationships, and even though they may not have worked out, they have taught you something. Let go of any bitterness, there’s more to life than feeling anger towards someone. You are worth everything and more, and one day you will find the right person who emphasises your worth every single day.

 

I truly hope you all find the person you’re looking for and have long, happy and successful relationships.

University Life

If you’re thinking of going to University and do not have a clue what to expect, then keep reading! I feel as though I have been through it all over the past two years that I’ve been at University – the ups and downs, the indecisiveness of not knowing which path I want to take, going out, getting drunk and forgetting my own name, fall-outs, friendships, everything! I’m here to give you the best advice I can to try and prepare you.
I understand the difficulty and pressure that we are all made to feel when deciding what we want to do with our lives. Especially in high school, it’s completely impossible to know which subjects you should take in order to help you build your future career. Quite often, we’re told by our teachers how much the subjects we study for GCSE’s will impact the job we want to have, but this isn’t entirely true. Let’s just say, I’ve never once been asked about my Art or Spanish GCSE so far in my educational journey.
MY EXPERIENCE
When studying A-levels for two years, I thought I had literally failed. I really struggled with handling the transition from GCSE’s at high school to the full-on, difficult and stressful studying of balancing 4 A-levels all at once. With the thought of failure already embedded into my head, I had to start thinking of a back-up plan of what I could do once I didn’t get into University. But luckily, and very surprisingly, when results day came, I had passed all of my exams and gotten offers from all of my University choices! I couldn’t believe it!
I had decided to do English because I enjoyed the subject and it was something that I knew I was good at. I also didn’t have a clue what I actually wanted to do so I picked this subject as an easy way through University.
THE REALITY
As the months went by of my first year at university, I became miserable. I hated my course and I wasn’t enjoying the university experience. I’d made good friends and I was having fun in that aspect, but when it came to the academic side I absolutely hated it. I have to admit, I gave up. I stopped going to my lectures, I stopped doing my work, I stopped submitting assignments and I didn’t even turn up for presentations or exams. I absolutely hated it. I was 18 years old, and halfway through my first year of university and I was completely stuck about what to do and all I could think of was to quit.
I was so lucky to have my parents to speak too about what to do. They told me how important University is for my future, and they were not bothered about what I did as long as I was happy. I ended up staying at the same University but changing my course and it was the best decision I have ever made. I wasn’t ready to give up education completely and I knew deep down how beneficial having a degree really is for my future career, whatever that may be.
A MESSAGE FOR YOU
The first message that I wanted to get across was that even if unfortunately, for whatever reason, you do not have a support system behind you to help you decide the best options for yourself, it’s completely normal for you to not know what career you would like and you are most certainly not the only one. Some people go through their entire lives not knowing what they would love to do, and get to 50 years old and decide to have a career change. Do not let the pressures of high school force you into studying for subjects that you feel will change your future because the reality is – they don’t! Whether you decide to study A-levels, a BTEC, or take another route and do an apprenticeship, start your own business, the choice is yours, and more importantly, the choices are endless. When it comes to university, if like me you start a course which turns out to not be everything you thought it was going to be, you have the ability to change your mind and whichever university you are at should guide you through this process and make you feel at ease. It’s never too late to change your mind! The best advice I can give is please do not ever continue through University if you’re unhappy with your studies. From my own experience, it will affect everything!
EMBRACING UNI LIFE
Once you have decided what you would like to do and are sticking at a course for the duration of it, you need to embrace University life! One of the biggest regrets I had in my first two years was that I did not put myself in the middle of University life. I should have joined societies for anything I was interested in, in order to meet new people and learn new things, and also to keep my week busy. It’s easy for things to get on top of you at University, especially if you’re living far away from home and can get homesick, so socialising and doing different activities is the best way to take your mind off anything you may be struggling with and keeping yourself extra busy but focused. I’ve put together a list of general (but random) tips that I think everyone should know;
TIP 1: SLEEP IS IMPORTANT – when you’ve got deadlines up to your eyeballs, you’ve been partying every night and surviving off pot noodles, sleep is the only thing you need. Always give yourself enough sleep, and try your best to stick to a routine.
TIP 2: DON’T WASTE YOUR MONEY ON EXPENSIVE ALCOHOL – at every single pre drinks I survived on the cheapest wine from my local supermarket, mixed with lemonade and it did the job of getting me happy drunk every time and I always had the best nights. Although student prices in clubs are a dream, don’t waste your money on buying drinks in a club which will probably get knocked out of your hands anyway.
TIP 3: APPRECIATE LIVING IN STUDENT HALLS (IF THIS APPLIES TO YOU) – the transition from living in university halls on campus to a student house was a difficult one. So make the most of every mom
ent in halls! Everything is done for you, whenever there’s a problem, for example, your lightbulb has broken, or your TV won’t turn on, there is always someone on campus to help fix it for you. Make the most of this, because moving into a shared house and having to deal with bills and greedy landlords is very stressful. Living together with a group of people you hardly know has to be a team effort. Work together to keep things clean, tidy, and enjoyable for everyone. Halls was the best experience of my life!
TIP 4: MAKE AS MANY FRIENDS AS POSSIBLE – like I’ve mentioned earlier, it’s important to socialise with as many people as you can and try to be involved in as little drama as possible. But remember, not all of the people you meet will be your friends for life. Form a small but trustworthy circle, and enjoy every minute with them because you will remember your entire university experience with them being a part of it.
TIP 5: MAKE THE MOST OF STUDENT BENEFITS – there have been so many things that I realised I missed out on as a student. Most of them being money off deals with my student card – including money off or free pizza! So do your research and every time you go shopping, make sure you check whether you can use your student discount or not. Don’t miss out! Every penny counts. Similarly, in freshers week sign up for as many student perks as you can, and make sure you take home all the free pens you’re offered – you’ll need them!
TIP 6: MANAGE YOUR MONEY – this is so important. I know it’s the last thing you’ll be thinking about when you’re buying 10 jägerbombs for all your friends, but it helps so much. Figure out how much you need to pay for rent, food and general living and then how much you’ll have left over each week or each month whether that be from your student loan or a part time job. It’s a life saver – then you’ll know how much you can spend on going out and having fun!
TIP 7: STAY SAFE – even when you have Dutch courage inside of you and think you’re invincible when walking back from the nightclub at 4am – you’re not. Never walk back alone, manage your alcohol and make sure that you stick with your friends. The amount of accidents involving students is immense and scary, so make sure you are always safe. You can always have fun without putting yourself in danger.
TIP 8: APPRECIATE EVERYTHING – the people you meet, the environments, the student perks, will all be missed as soon as you graduate. Appreciate everything and everyone you meet. University will be the best experience of your life as long as you make it that way yourself. Enjoy every moment!

 

If you’re getting ready to go to University and are feeling nervous or apprehensive, just know that there are a million other students all over the world who will be feeling the exact same way as you are. Everyone is in the same boat, and this thought should put you at ease.
I hope University is everything you hope and that you all achieve everything you’re capable of – it really is the greatest few years of your life. Enjoy!